Freedom from Chronic Symptoms | The #1 Thing to Change if You’re a Chronically Ill Homemaker
If you’re a homemaker who experiences various ailments, chronic symptoms, and/or fatigue then I have help for you.
Hi homemakers, my name is Kyrie with the Transformed Homemakers Society and my mission is to help homemakers go from overstimulation and chronic stress to a peaceful and thriving home so that they can serve their families and the Lord.
Over the years I’ve had my own major transformation in my homemaking, going from overstimulated, highly sensitive and chronically stressed to cool, calm, collected and unbelievably fulfilled in my role.
Now I help other homemakers have their own transformations. If you’re interested in working with me then please check out my free workshop.
In this post I’m going to first, give you the #1 thing to change as a chronically ill, or fatigued homemaker.
Then, I’m going to go into what the bible says about this and then what the science says about it and how science is actually backing up what the Bible says yet again.
Finally, I’m going to address how this can affect your homemaking.
#1 thing to change to find freedom from chronic symptoms
The number one thing to change if you’re chronically ill or fatigued is to get rid of bitterness in your life.
Unforgiveness, anger, resentment, etc. can lead to sickness and this concept is backed up by the Bible and modern science. Bitterness has been called the poison of the soul for a reason.
What the Bible says about bitterness
So let’s see what God has to say about bitterness.
The term bitter is used to describe something as venomous, poisonous or corroding. Bitterness is when someone is choosing to hold onto angry feelings about something or someone and can act on human brains and bodies as a poison.
Bitterness is the unwillingness to restore fellowship with someone when fellowship has been broken which ultimately allows the anger to grow in our hearts and rule over us. We know that this leads to wrath, malice and many other forms of sinful behavior.
Ephesians 4:31 says Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Hebrews 12:15 warns us to “see to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”
We are warned in the Bible to be wary of bitter roots which we allow to grow in our hearts as these are not of the Lord. We are called to live by the fruit of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.
And when someone wrongs us, especially a fellow saint, we are to remember the sacrifice made for us by our Lord Jesus Christ.
Mark 11: 25-26 says “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
When we choose to forgive and get rid of any root of bitterness, we are agreeing with God the father that God the Son’s sacrifices were sufficient for our redemption.
However, if we are choosing to hold onto bitterness and anger, we are not in agreement and this displeases the Lord.
What science says about bittnerness
Ok, so what does science say about bitterness and anger? according to Raymond Chip Tafrate, PhD, a clinical psychologist and professor at Central Connecticut State University in New Britain…
“When anger experiences are too frequent, too intense, last too long, or are out of proportion to the triggering event, the emotion can have problematic effects on our well-being and our health.”
Further, he explains that “Anger is part of the fight, fight, freeze, response in which the adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.”
According to research, even momentary anger can result in changes in the heart which can worsen the muscle’s ability to pump blood, potentially leading to high blood pressure and subsequent complications (like heart disease, heart attack, stroke, and metabolic syndrome).
Further, people who are less capable of controlling their hostile thoughts and feelings are at greater risk of coronary heart disease according to more research on the topic.
Pankaj Jay Pasricha, MD, the chair of medicine at Mayo Clinic in Scottsdale, Arizona – there is much evidence of anger changing the function and performance of the gut.
Gut regulation is a role of the autonomic nervous system which can be impaired by the fight or flight response induced by anger. This can lead to many gut issues such as IBS, gastrointestinal irregularity and tons more uncomfortable and painful gut symptoms.
Studies go on to suggest that anger can lead to a slough of mental health issues as well as many sleep-related issues. All of these can lead to many other comorbidities.
How bitterness impacts your homemaking
When it comes to homemaking, bitterness and anger can lead to mom rage, depression, higher instances of PPD, poor relationships with your children and spouse, which may lead to other devastating outcomes which are not what the Lord had in mind for your family.
As we’ve seen, bitterness and anger can be a poison to the homemaker and cause her body many ailments and symptoms.
As someone who was chronically ill, fatigued and in pain for many years, I know I experienced many of these issues and almost threw it all away and decided to escape and go back to work – which, of course, would have just been a band-aid for the deeper issue.
Homemakers who are experiencing chronic symptoms and fatigue can really be living in misery, and if you’re experiencing this now, I want you to know that there is a way out.
What to do about pent up bitterness?
Ok, so what do you do about this? All this seems like I’m just saying – just don’t be angry and don’t be bitter.
But there is a way to alleviate yourself from these gut reactions of anger and bitterness which I know seem so insurmountable in the moment.
I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to just let go of anger. But what if there was a way to make sure you just don’t have a propensity to anger? What if you could rewire the anger out of your brain?
Thats what I teach in my course, the Transformed Homemakers Society.
In my course, I use Christian brain rewiring and home management systems to transform your homemaking from drudgery to perfect peace.
I provide you with a Christian brain rewiring formula, simplified homemaking rhythms, help you create your own family vision, culture and unique homemaker qualities, and so much more.
If this is something that you feel that would be a blessing to you I hope that you consider taking my free workshop – it’s my five step framework for overwhelmed and overworked homemakers.
Homemaker Homework
Your homemaker homework for today is to pray about where you’re holding onto bitterness. Who is it towards? Then ask God for His help to make the choice to forgive.
Forgiveness is a choice – and it can be a daily dying to self. It may need to be a constant practice of taking your thoughts captive to the obedience of christ – but with the Lords help, you can do it.
