How Rejecting a Quiet Christian Life Can Steal Your Peace

To reject a quiet, simple Christian life may be a sign of pride and very well may be stealing your peace.

There is a hidden poison many Christian women carry—a restless craving to live louder and be seen by many… when the life God calls us to is quiet, humble, and often unrecognized.

In this post, I’ll explain why rejecting a quiet life is rooted in pride, how it silently steals your peace, and how you can embrace the simple, joy-filled life God treasures most.

The Restlessness We Feel

Have you ever felt a restless ache inside—a low, constant hum telling you your life should look bigger, busier, and more impressive, yet it often feels chaotic and disordered instead?

Whenever disorder creeps into my home—and it does—it rarely begins with the laundry pile or the crumbs under the kitchen table.

It begins in the quiet, hidden places of my heart.

It’s when I compare and measure my sacrifices against my husband’s. Or consider my life and how much harder I have it than the next mother.

It starts when I grumble about folding yet another basket of laundry or tally up the minutes of rest I’ve earned but haven’t received.

It starts when my heart forgets that this sacred work—the tending of my home, the nurturing of my family—is a holy assignment from the Lord.

And when pride creeps in, chaos and disorder follow. Because pride always sows seeds of disorder, not only outwardly in our homes but inwardly in our souls.

In these moments, the Lord, in His mercy, humbles me—calling me to repentance, reminding me that the fruit of peace is born from a heart rooted in humility, not in entitlement.

Embracing Humility in a Prideful World

The Bible calls Christians to live quiet, humble, and contented lives.

1 Thessalonians 4:11 says: Aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you.

Rejecting a simple, quiet Christian life often stems from the desire to be seen, praised, or exalted by others, rather than simply being faithful before God—that’s pride.

James 3:16 warns: For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.

When we crave more, resent simplicity, or despise an ordinary life, it reveals a prideful dissatisfaction with the humble work God has assigned to us.

It’s the belief that I deserve more, I must be recognized, my life must look impressive—instead of trusting that quiet faithfulness is precious to God.

Proverbs 16:18 reminds us: Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.

But Jesus—the very Son of God—showed us that greatness in the kingdom of God is not found in hustle but in humility.

Matthew 11:29 says: Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

But pride runs deep—and sometimes, God strips away the very things we idolize in order to set us free. He tears down what we build in pride… so He can rebuild it on His love.

Let me share with you how He did that in my own life.

A Wedding, a Humbling, and a Beautiful Lesson

When I was getting married, my husband and I had a charming little wedding planned. It wasn’t extravagant—it was modest and fairly small—but the Lord knew my heart all along.

He knew that I wanted the attention to be on me rather than on how I could serve Him and my husband in my upcoming marriage.

I had lived a very non-Christian life prior to meeting my now-husband, so I was excited that this time, we were doing things the right way.

We waited to move in together. We honored God through dating. And when he proposed, I was thrilled.

I felt like I deserved this. I deserved to feel like a princess. I deserved my dream wedding.

I had dreamed of my wedding day my whole life—the pampering before the wedding, the celebration, the honeymoon. I wanted it all, because deep down, I felt I had earned it.

We got engaged in February 2020, and we planned a short engagement, aiming to get married in May 2020. But then March 2020 came.

You can probably guess what happened.

I started getting texts from people saying, “I’m so sorry about your wedding…” and I was confused.

I told them with a pit in my stomach, “What are you talking about? The wedding is still on!”

But reality hit hard.

We had to cancel our wedding.

I told myself, “That’s okay—as long as we can still have our honeymoon.”

We had planned to go to the Dominican Republic and stay at a resort with a honeymoon suite. But then, all flights were canceled.

So I said, “That’s okay—as long as we can book a cool Airbnb for our wedding night.”

But in Washington state—where we lived, the epicenter of what was going on—nobody was renting Airbnbs anymore.

One by one, every earthly plan I clung to was stripped away.

In the end, we got married on a Tuesday after work. And we both went back to work the next day. We never did have that wedding, or honeymoon.

God really humbled me, but He was so good to me through it too.

The quiet simplicity of our wedding ended up being so much better than anything I could have dreamed—the memories and stories we have now are better than we would have had even if I would have gotten everything I wanted.

We texted our pastor the night before asking if he could marry us, and by God’s grace, he said yes. Our photographer said yes too. My wedding dress, miraculously, was ready from the tailor in time. Our wedding cake was a birthday cake from the grocery store. Our dinner was Chick-fil-A.

We got married in a wooded area, with only eight people present—including our pastor and our photographer. And now, we have the most precious, simple memories from that day.

Every year on our anniversary, my husband and I celebrate with Chick-fil-A and grocery store birthday cake—and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

The Beautiful, Freeing Truth

When we cling to pride, we miss the gifts humility brings. When we loosen our grip and embrace simplicity, we find peace that no applause could ever give.

Pride demands to be seen. But humility quietly serves. And quiet faithfulness is beautiful in the eyes of God.

The world glorifies hustle, spotlight, and accolades. But God calls us to be quiet workers. Faithful servants.

True peace—true joy—comes not from being seen, but from being known by the God who sees in secret. The world may overlook your faithfulness. But Heaven celebrates it.

1 Peter 5:6 says: Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.

Lay down your pride. Embrace the life the world calls small, too simple, and too quiet.

Embrace the quiet simplicity of life and find the peace that comes with it. Let go of the need for recognition and trust in God’s perfect timing. His view of your faithfulness is what matters most.

If your heart feels restless and weary, if you’re longing to trade pride for peace, I want to invite you to my free workshop, From Survival Mode to Peace-Filled Homemaking in 7 Days.

It’s a free, biblical training designed to help you slow down, reset your nervous system, and create a life of true, joyful faithfulness—right where you are.