Homemaking Is Horrible—Until You Learn This

Homemaking can feel overwhelming, frustrating, and downright exhausting. But what if I told you there’s a way to find joy and purpose in your role—without decluttering your home or adopting yet another new routine?

If you’re tired of the chaos and feeling like you’re just barely surviving, I’m here to share five mindset hacks that will transform the way you view and manage your home.

A Moment of Conviction

There was a time when I found myself frustrated and exhausted. With little ones constantly needing my attention—a baby to nurse, toddlers needing diaper changes, and more—it felt like my efforts went unnoticed. One day, in my frustration, I prayed, Lord, I just want my husband to acknowledge how hard this is for me.

What I heard in response humbled me: I just want you to acknowledge how blessed you are.

That moment convicted me deeply. I realized how prideful my thinking had been. By intentionally renewing my mind and focusing on the blessings in my life, my outlook began to shift.

Mindset Hack #1: Renew Your Mind Daily

Homemaking feels horrible when we forget to focus on our blessings. But renewing your mind doesn’t have to be complicated. By making it a daily practice, you’ll soon find your thoughts naturally searching for the positives in every situation.

When those hard days come—and they will—it’s essential to remind yourself of what’s good. But what about the days when everything seems to go wrong?

Shifting Your Focus

We all have days where it feels like everything is spiraling out of control. The kids are wild, the house is a mess, and you can’t seem to catch a break. When I have days like this, I’ve noticed something: I’m usually focused on myself.

I’m thinking about my to-do list, my feelings, or how much I want to get done. When I step back and focus on others instead, everything changes.

Mindset Hack #2: Stop Thinking About Yourself

On those tough days, try reaching out to someone else. Send a kind text, bake cookies for a neighbor, or write a letter to a loved one. Shifting your focus to serving others can quickly pull you out of a funk.

Give it a try today. Send a text with the intent of making someone smile, and see how it changes your perspective.

Calming Overstimulation

Some days, everything feels too much. You ache, every sound grates on your nerves, and even a simple touch feels overwhelming. I’ve been there.

This is why I talk so much about calming your nervous system—it’s a huge issue for moms. Did you know that mothers are significantly more likely to experience nervous system dysfunction due to chronic stress, hormonal changes, and the mental load of caregiving?

Mindset Hack #3: Regulate Your Nervous System

When your nervous system is in fight-or-flight mode, even small triggers can feel unbearable. By addressing the root cause of this overstimulation, you can raise your threshold for daily stressors.

I used to rely on earplugs and other temporary fixes, but once I calmed my nervous system, those little stressors no longer felt overwhelming. My program teaches a Christian brain-rewiring formula that integrates seamlessly into your homemaking routine—without the need for expensive supplements or trendy protocols.

Embracing Your Sanctification

Motherhood is the hardest job in the world. It exposes every weakness—physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. It’s no wonder so many moms struggle with rage, exhaustion, and overwhelm. But God isn’t surprised by your struggles.

Mindset Hack #4: Recognize God’s Work in Your Life

Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

God is using your role as a mother and homemaker to sanctify you, shaping you to be more like Christ. Lean into this truth and let the Holy Spirit work in you.

It won’t always feel like you’re making progress, but over time, you’ll notice less rage, anxiety, and impatience.

Seeing the Bigger Picture

Lastly, homemaking can feel horrible when we lack a larger vision for our family and home. What kind of legacy do you want to leave for your children?

Mindset Hack #5: Have a Vision for Your Family

In my Facebook group, I once asked, “What’s one word you’d want your children to use to describe you when they grow up?” Words like “joyful,” “present,” and “effective” came up—and they deeply inspired me.

Take a moment to reflect: What word would you choose? Leave your answer in the comments below, and let’s encourage one another!

Homemaking doesn’t have to feel horrible. By renewing your mind, focusing on others, calming your nervous system, leaning into God’s work, and having a vision for your family, you can experience true joy and purpose in your role.

If you’d like to learn a few of my favorite homemaking hacks to embrace the chaos and thrive in your role, be sure to check out my free homemaking workshop.

Let’s grow together, and remember: You are not alone in this journey!