How Brain Retraining Transformed My Homemaking  

If you’re a homemaker who experiences overwhelm and overstimulation in your homemaking, then I have help for you.

Hi homemakers, my name is Kyrie with the Transformed Homemakers Society and my mission is to help homemakers go from overstimulation and chronic stress to a peaceful and thriving home so that they can serve their families and the Lord.

Over the years I’ve had my own major transformation in my homemaking, going from overstimulated, highly sensitive and chronically stressed to cool, calm, collected and unbelievably fulfilled.

Now I help other homemakers have their own transformations. If you’re interested in working with me then please check out my free workshop.

In this post I’m going to talk about how my homemaking (and life) has changed as a result of rewiring my brain for Christ.

To do this, I decided to just take you through the journal I’ve been keeping where I write down all my wins. But I’m just going to take you through the first month or so of my healing journey because that’s when I experienced the most profound and frequent wins. 

How long does brain retraining take

Lots of people wonder how long it’ll take them to heal their impaired limbic system and the answer varies drastically. However, most people do experience SOME wins right off the bat like within the first week. The degree of the “win” is different too. For some, these are just small wins, for others, they’re quite profound. 

I’m one of the lucky ones and had profound wins right off the bat – Praise God! 

Brain retraining wins

So here we go… The first few points I’m going to mention happened within 6 days of starting brain retraining and then as I go through the wins I’ll tell you how far into my journey I was when I experienced this. 

1. I noticed my body relaxing in areas i didn’t even realize I was holding tension. Just a general relaxed feeling and I didn’t even realized I had so much pent up tension because when you’re tense for so long you forget what it feels like to be relaxed… until it happens and you finally get relief and you’re like oh… so this is what relaxed feels like. 
2. I was less aggressive and combative in general. I had a more approachable demeanor. 
3. My movements were naturally less rushed and frantic. I used to always whip around the house getting things done quickly and moving so frantically. I thought it was just because I had so much to do and my husband and I would even joke about it, but really it was because my body was in a state of fight/flight and it learned to move that way for a reason. 
4. In general, my demeanor was more relaxed and joyful. 
5. Speaking of joy, I was actually feeling TRUE joy again. Something I hadn’t felt in a long time. 
6. Specifically, I was finding more joy in my children. I was noticing all the cute little things they did and actually experiencing them as a blessing. 
7. I was less anxious over menial things. 
8. I had TONS more energy. Went from NEEDING to nap at every single one of my children naps (for the full 2 hours) to being productive, working on projects, hobbies, and other things. And I LOVED this because it actually felt like a break for me then when the kids napped. When I spent the whole 2 hours sleeping I’d wake up and instantly have to get back into the day. 
9. I began to see life more positively. I had a propensity to positivity versus negativity. If something negative happened, I noticed my brain instantly finding the positives about that thing. 
10. My days stopped feeling like such drudgery. I remember months prior texting my friend telling her that it felt like I was treading through molasses just to get through everyday. And this wasn’t just a short season. We are talking years of this progressively getting worse and worse. I remember talking to my mentor telling her how much I hated my role as a mother and feeling so duped by the whole gig and how dang hard everything was. I was just so angry about how hard everything was. Now I realize it was never meant to be that hard! Yes, motherhood is hard and there are some seasons that totally drop us to our knees… but not for an extended period of time like I had experienced. So around 6 days in I felt less like this. 
11. 8 days into my brain retraining work, my husband said that I seemed normal again “like you aren’t always freaking out.” Since he was noticing such a change he was so supportive of what I was doing. He would happily give me quiet alone time and take the kids so I could do what I needed to do. Not that he didn’t do that before, I’m so blessed to have such an involved husband. But he was GLADLY giving me this time and honestly he was almost more protective of this time than I was! Which just goes to show how much it was affecting him too. 
12. Around 8 days in I could drink coffee again and actually feel good. My body began not tolerating coffee and it had totally messed up my hormones and blood sugar, which was so sad because I genuinely LOVE coffee and it brings me so much joy. I was now able to drink it without it affecting my mood. 
13. 12 days in my hair started growing back at an astonishing rate. I was losing hair by the droves, and now i could actually run my fingers through my hair and pull out maybe only one or two hairs. Before if I did that I would pull literal clumps out. I also noticed all the new hair growth around my head with all the little baby hairs. 
14. 14 days in I noticed that if someone snapped at me or was rude in any way that I didn’t have a gut reaction to fire back. 
15. 16 days in I noticed my resiliency increasing. I was able to bounce back more quickly if something bad happened whereas before something like dropping a smoothie on the floor would have totally broken me. As irritating as something like that can be, we should be able to bounce back from something like that fairly quickly.
16. 18 days in I was recognizing my negative thinking patterns and able to stop them in their tracks and reverse my thinking. I’ll tell you, as a Christian, I KNEW it’s important to renew my mind, so I would always try so hard to reverse native thinking patterns but it felt so impossible until I started the work of brain retraining then it just came more naturally.  
17. 23 days in I noticed my brain retraining sessions becoming more productive and beneficial for healing. If you’re doing this work yourself, you know how sometimes it can feel like you’re just going through the motions – but then you reach a tipping point at several stages in the process where you find your stride and it feels so productive and healing. 
18. 27 days in I had a day where I was feeling symptomatic in some way and I was able to maintain my joy despite the discomfort. 
19. 28 days in things weren’t annoying me as much. I was constantly annoyed. All the time annoyed. That lessened within the first month. 
20. 29 days in I found myself being more articulate and clear headed. I had had so much brain fog it felt like I lost who I was before. I used to be very intelligent and articulate and I had totally lost that. 
21. 30 days in I noticed that I had higher highs and higher lows. meaning my good days were even better than my good days before, and my bad days just weren’t as bad. 
22. 31 days in I was less judgmental of people. Even just strangers on the road – I had more empathy and started seeing more good in people. 
23. Around this time I also noticed that I wasn’t; as sensitive to touch. Also not as sensitive to pain. I used to be SO very sensitive. And with young toddlers that tough because they’re constantly jumping on you, accidentally hurting you, they just don’t have good body awareness so homemaking can really be a dangerous job. So I just wasn’t as fragile of a mommy. I was able to be more rough and tumble with the kids. Not only because I had more energy, but also because I was less fragile. 
24. I was also less hyper vigilant. Of course vigilant – I’m a mom – but not HYPER vigilant. If you experience the chronic stress response you may be aware of how hyper vigilant you are and it can be exhausting to go through your days like this. 
25. 32 days in I had actually decided to wake my children up EARLY from bed so we could go on an early morning walk as a family. Guys I NEVER would have sacrificed rest-time to wake the kids up early. I was just barely surviving. 
26. Around this time I noticed myself clinching my jaw and grinding my teeth less at night. I would have more days where I’d wake up and my jaw wouldn’t hurt. 
27. 36 days in I wrote that I clipped my toenails without getting an infection. HAHA this is kind of embarrassing but one of my symptoms was frequent infections. All kinds and all over my body. At one point I had had three areas of infection at the same time. And one of the things that would give me infections was clipping my toenails short. So I would always have to do it this very specific way where I wouldn’t get an infection, but I had tested it out doing it the way I prefer, and praise God – no infection. 

So there you have it! A little over a month and that’s how my life had already changed! Most of these wins had continued and not really come back, but, of course, healing is not linear so some of them did come and go as I went through my healing journey which is to be expected. 

But overall, any triggers and symptoms I did experience after this first month were not as strong and didn’t last as long. 

Transformed Homemaker

I’ll say it again, I’m one of the lucky ones who noticed so many wins right off the bat, but the process is different with everyone. I do think most people going through this healing journey through brain retraining do have significant wins within the first month though. 

Since I’ve had such a profound transformation in my own homemaking, I created a free workshop with the exact framework I followed to make my transformation.  it’s my five step framework for overwhelmed and overworked homemakers.

I hope this was helpful for you to understand what the potentials are for your own homemaking if you experience similar things as I did.