Declutter Your Mind: The Key to Joyful Homemaking

What if the real issue isn’t the clutter in your home, but the clutter in your mind? Today, we’re diving into the top mental and emotional clutter that steals your joy in homemaking—and how you can protect your peace. Each point we’ll cover gets progressively deeper, so stick with me, and let me know which one you relate to most!

The Problem with Holding Too Much in Your Head

It’s not good for mamas to hold too much information in their brains. Doing so creates unnecessary stress that pulls us out of the present moment and makes us more distant from our families.

I used to carry everything in my head—appointments, meal plans, kids’ schedules, emails, and all the things I kept putting off. It was overwhelming. That’s when I realized I needed an “external brain” to get organized. I started using a planner, and the relief was immediate. Writing things down meant I didn’t have to carry the mental load everywhere. Tasks waited for me until I was ready to deal with them, instead of stressing me out when I was trying to be present with my family.

If you’re using your phone for this kind of organization, you may want to reconsider.

Your Phone: The Hidden Source of Mental Clutter

Let’s be honest—your phone might be adding to your mental clutter. It starts innocently enough: you need to add ketchup to your grocery order. But then, you find yourself checking emails, responding to messages, or scrolling Instagram, where you see a perfectly renovated kitchen that reminds you of all the unfinished projects in your own home. Before you know it, you’re snapping at your kids—and all because you needed ketchup.

Instead of relying on your phone, use a planner with sections for grocery lists, conversations with your husband, brain dumps, and meal planning. Taking the phone out of the equation can protect your peace and simplify your life.

Unfinished Tasks: The Silent Stressors

Sometimes, it’s the littlest things—small, unfinished tasks—that silently drain your energy and clutter your mind. For instance, you may have a letter to respond to, but the thought of writing it, finding an envelope, getting stamps, and mailing it feels overwhelming.

Here’s the thing: either commit to the task right away, decide not to do it, or let it go entirely. What’s not okay is letting it sit there for months, making you feel guilty every time you see it. Clearing these small tasks (or choosing to release them) will free up your mental energy.

Negative Thinking Patterns: The Biggest Clutter Culprit

Your own thoughts may be the biggest weapon against your peace as a homemaker. I used to believe I had to do everything perfectly or felt like I was doing more than my husband. These patterns of negative thinking led to stress and emotional outbursts. Breaking free from these thoughts was a game-changer.

In my course, I call these “Old Destructive Patterns.” These patterns lead to destructive behaviors, creating a cycle that keeps us stuck. If you’re ready to rewire your brain and respond to your family with more love and grace, I’d love for you to join my free homemaking workshop.

Resisting God’s Wisdom: A Source of Mental Chaos

Sometimes, we ask God for wisdom but resist the answer He gives us. James 1:5-8 warns about being double-minded, and I’ve found this often happens when we don’t like the answer we receive. This resistance creates mental clutter and disrupts our peace.

What about you? Do you struggle more with trusting God will give you wisdom—or with accepting the answer He gives? Let me know in the comments.

Living in Disobedience: The Weight of Guilt

Ignoring God’s wisdom and walking in disobedience can create chaos in your mind and heart. When we knowingly live against what God has called us to, it leads to cognitive dissonance that affects us physically, emotionally, and relationally. But if this is you, remember—the Christian life is not about holding onto guilt.

Romans 8:1 reminds us, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Let go of the guilt, mama. Repent, receive His forgiveness, and move forward.

Unforgiveness: Emotional Clutter That Holds You Back

Unforgiveness keeps us in emotional bondage. It creates a cycle of resentment and bitterness, cluttering our hearts and minds. Forgiveness is a daily choice, and sometimes even an hourly one. It doesn’t mean the hurt vanishes, but by taking every thought captive and leaning into God’s strength, you can create space for peace and healing.

It’s Time to Declutter

If you’re feeling a heaviness you can’t explain, it might be because of mental or emotional clutter—like holding too much information in your brain, holding onto guilt or unforgiveness, or resisting the path God wants you to walk. It’s time to declutter, homemakers.

I’d love for you to join my free workshop, where I’ll guide you through a 7-day homemaking reset to bring you from chaos to joy in just 7 days. Let’s do this together!