When You Don’t Like Being a Mom: The Biblical Truths No One Talks About

You won’t always like being a mom.
Sometimes you’ll envy your husband’s freedom.
Sometimes you’ll miss the woman you used to be.

These are the harsh truths about Biblical motherhood Christian women are afraid to say out loud—but today, we’re going to speak them with grace and truth.

In this post, you’ll gain honest clarity about the struggles so many Christian moms hide—and practical, biblical ways to renew your mind so you don’t allow those challenges to drive you to burnout, but instead, become stepping stones toward joy and strength in Christ. I’ve been there, and through my journey, I’ve helped thousands of women move from exhaustion to peace.

1. You Won’t Always Like Being a Mom

Motherhood isn’t the constant fairytale you imagined. Sometimes, it’s downright hard.

I remember a time when I was in the throes of postpartum with two babies under two. I had a 5-week-old and a 1.5-year-old. My days were filled with diapers, crying, nursing, dishes, laundry, and being needed all the time. I was overwhelmed, touched out, and exhausted in a way I didn’t even know how to describe.

I would look at my husband going to work, holding a coffee and listening to a podcast, and I would envy him. Not because I didn’t love my children, not because I didn’t appreciate being home—but because I was human. I missed my freedom. I missed the woman I used to be.

And I felt guilty for it.

But here’s what I’ve learned: these feelings don’t make you a bad mom. They make you a real mom. A human one. One who desperately needs grace.

2. Sometimes You’ll Miss the Old You

It’s okay to miss the version of yourself who wasn’t always needed. Who had margin. Who could use the bathroom without someone banging on the door.

Motherhood requires you to lay your life down—but it doesn’t mean your old self was worthless. In fact, those parts of you are still in there. And in time, God will refine them, redeem them, and even resurrect them into something new.

Ecclesiastes 3 says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
This is a season of being poured out. But it’s not forever.

3. Loving Your Kids Doesn’t Always Feel Warm and Fuzzy

Sometimes loving your kids looks like cleaning up vomit at 2am, staying calm during a tantrum, or answering “why?” for the 40th time in one hour. It’s not glamorous—and it doesn’t always feel good.

Love isn’t always a feeling—it’s a choice. A thousand daily choices.
And the more we align our hearts with Christ, the more we begin to see love not just as affection, but as action—rooted in self-sacrifice and patience.

4. You Will Feel Resentment Sometimes

This is one no one talks about, but I will.

Yes—there are moments when you’ll feel resentful.
Resentful that you’re the default parent.
Resentful that the mental load is crushing.
Resentful that everyone gets a break… except you.

And instead of shoving that resentment down, what if we brought it to Jesus?

He invites us to cast all our cares on Him. (1 Peter 5:7)
Even the ugly ones.
Especially the ugly ones.

5. You’ll Feel Like You’re Doing it All Wrong

The comparison trap is real.
Instagram tells you you’re not doing enough.
The parenting books tell you you’re doing too much.
Your own mind accuses you daily.

But here’s the truth: if you are looking to Christ, repenting, relying on His strength, and loving your children—you are not failing. You’re growing.

6. Some Days You’ll Want to Quit

There will be days you fantasize about running away.
About silence. Solitude. A hotel room with no one needing you.
These thoughts don’t make you sinful—they make you spent.

What you need isn’t escape.
It’s rest.
Not spa-day rest. Soul-deep rest.

And that comes from Christ alone.
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

7. You Need a Break—But You Also Need to Surrender

You need rest—but not just physical rest.
You need to surrender the unrealistic standards.
You need to stop trying to do it all in your own strength.
You need to stop idolizing “balance” and start seeking obedience.

There’s nothing wrong with needing time to recharge. But recharging doesn’t just mean bubble baths and girls’ nights. It means plugging into the true source—Jesus.

8. Motherhood Will Break You—And That’s the Point

The culture preaches, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
But Scripture says, “Pour yourself out like a drink offering.” (Philippians 2:17)

I once got a comment saying moms shouldn’t have to let their basic needs go unmet. And to an extent—I agree. But the truth is… sometimes you do.

I’ve been up all night with sick kids while being sick myself.
I’ve served while dizzy, disciplined while nauseous, and comforted crying babies without having eaten or showered.

I once read a Reddit thread about a wife who expected her husband to take time off because she was sick—and they had no kids. I bit my tongue thinking about all the times I was barely standing and still mothering because I had to.

This is faithfulness.

Toxic mommy culture says “you come first.”
But the Cross says: die to self.

You weren’t called to chase happiness—you were called to carry your cross.
And some days, your cross looks like a diaper blowout at 2am followed by a toddler tantrum at 5am.

God didn’t promise ease—He promised endurance.
His power is made perfect not in your perfect ability to hold it all together—but in your weakness. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

9. Your Children Shouldn’t Come First

Culture says: “Put your kids above all.”
Scripture says: “What God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)

Your marriage matters.
When you put your children above your husband, you distort God’s design.

A strong marriage is a blessing to your children—not a threat to their emotional health.
Marriage reflects Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5). Prioritizing your marriage is not selfish—it’s sacred.

I created the Bless Your Husband Challenge—30 days of intentional acts of service paired with short Bible studies to help you nurture your marriage even in the busy seasons of motherhood.

10. Motherhood Will Make You Angry

Yes—even the most godly mother will get angry.

If you never feel anger, you’re probably not actually raising your kids—you’re just appeasing them.

Anger isn’t sin. Unrighteous anger is.
God calls us to be slow to anger—not emotionless. (James 1:19)

I’ve talked openly about my struggle with mom-rage. I still yell when I shouldn’t. But each time I repent and ask for forgiveness, I get to model humility and grace for my kids.

Motherhood will cost you your pride. It’ll stretch your patience.
But it will also sanctify your soul.

11. You Are Not—and Never Will Be—“Enough”

You weren’t created to be “enough.”
You were created to need grace.

I tried to be the perfect mom—clean home, calm tone, nutritious meals.
I failed daily.
But God doesn’t ask for perfection. He asks for dependence.

“My grace is sufficient for you. My power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

You don’t need to be enough.
You need to rest in the One who is.

12. Motherhood Will Feel Isolating If You’re Raising Your Kids Biblically

This world mocks biblical motherhood.
Teach obedience? You’re a control freak.
Stay home? You’re wasting your potential.
Train them in truth? You’re brainwashing.

But you’re not crazy—you’re set apart.
The narrow road isn’t crowded.
But God walks with you on it.

And just when you feel most alone—
God sends a mentor, a sister, a moment of divine encouragement.
He sees you. He’s with you. Always.

From One Mama to Another

These truths aren’t meant to discourage you—they’re meant to set you free.

If you’re ready to step out of survival mode and into peace-filled homemaking, I’d love to invite you to my free workshop.

Thank you for your courage to face these truths today.
If this post blessed you, share it with a sister who needs it.
You are not alone.
Let’s walk this narrow road—together.