Are You a Depressed Homemaker Who’s Unknowingly a Lukewarm Christian?

Are you a depressed homemaker who’s unknowingly a lukewarm Christian? You read your Bible. You pray. Maybe you even give your children a Christian education, read Christian books, and listen to sermons while you fold laundry—and yet something in your spirit is heavy, foggy, and disconnected.

Could it be that despite all your Christian routines, your heart has grown cold towards the Lord? That you’ve become lukewarm… without even realizing it?

When I Thought I Was Too Far Gone

There was a time when I was so broken that I honestly believed I was too far gone to change. I had been angry, reactive, and exhausted for so long that I thought—this is just who I am now.

I was doing all the “right” things. Bible study. Church. Only consuming Christian content. Serving my family as a Christian homemaker. But inside I was drowning. Anxious. And just numb. And worse—I thought this was just “part of being a Christian mom.” This was the sacrifice we are called to.

But that’s not true, and I didn’t even realize that by entertaining this idea, I had handed over my mind to the enemy in quiet, subtle ways. I was living with a form of godliness but denying its power.

“Having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.”
— 2 Timothy 3:5

Point 1: Give Your Mind to God

We serve a God who cares deeply not just about what we do, but how we think. 2 Corinthians 10:5 calls us to “take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

You don’t need to tolerate that storm of intrusive, hopeless, anxious thoughts that run counter to what the Lord thinks. You are called to take them captive.

When we say we trust God, but let our minds dwell on fear, control, bitterness, or defeat, we live in contradiction. If we truly believe God is sovereign, good, and near, our thoughts should reflect that.

And here’s the hard truth: Many of us unknowingly build our lives on lies.

Lies like:

• “God doesn’t care about my struggle with yelling at my kids when I’m overstimulated and overwhelmed.”
• “This will always be my struggle and I can’t change.”

Let’s look at that line of thinking: “I will never be able to change.” This haunted me. I thought that since I’d been an angry mom and wife for so long, that I couldn’t change. But this was a lukewarm mentality—because it revealed my lack of understanding in two crucial areas:

1. The gospel itself, and
2. The sanctification that God faithfully works in the lives of believers.

The gospel doesn’t say “you are what you’ve always been”—it says you are a new creation.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
— 2 Corinthians 5:17

And that even when you do fall short, you’re forgiven due to the work Christ did on the cross—not through any work of your own. AND to top it off, God cares SO much, that He continually and faithfully sanctifies you.

“He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”
— Philippians 1:6

In the Parable of the Lost Son (Luke 15:11–32), Jesus shows us that no matter how far someone has wandered or how long they’ve lived in rebellion, the Father runs to meet the repentant child. He restores, and rejoices, and redeems.

Psalm 121 says God never slumbers. He watches over your coming and going, now and forevermore.

The Word of God is not full of cute Pinterest quotes. It’s alive and active in the lives of Christians. Romans 8 tells us we are more than conquerors. It tells us there is no condemnation. And it reminds us that the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness.

All you have to do is give your mind to God.

Practical Ways I Do This:

• Memorizing scripture
• When a thought feels heavy or defeating, I ask myself: Is this what God says? And replace the thought with what God would say about it.
• I speak God’s Word out loud, even when I don’t feel like it—this is my armor against the enemy’s lies.
• Pray over my thinking patterns, asking God to help me renew my mind.

I’ll tell you, I thought I was a lost cause as a depressed Christian homemaker. And even if I wasn’t, I assumed it would take years of work to get better.

But in the Lord’s infinite mercy, once I started really working on this area of my life—my mind—and let the Lord redeem my mind, I felt drastically better in less than a week! So much so that even my husband noticed a difference.

If you’re struggling with feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or reactive in your home… I invite you to join my free workshop, where I share the 5-steps I used to get out of survival mode and find true joy and peace in my homemaking—and how you can too this week.

Point 2: Tackle Sin Right Away

But giving your mind to God is only the beginning. Because once He reveals what’s been lurking in the dark corners of your heart… you’ll need to decide how quickly you’ll repent.

Delaying repentance is like letting a kidnapper drive you further and further into danger.

Rachel Jankovic shares this concept in a story in her new book No Time to Be Dumb that stopped me in my tracks:

“My granddad was a man who loved preparedness. He would frequently confront us with random situational story problems to help us think how we would handle ourselves—for example, ‘What would you do if someone jumped in your car with a gun and told you to drive them somewhere?’

His answer: ‘Get in a wreck as fast as possible so that you draw everyone’s attention to the situation.’ One of the things he was fond of telling us was to never ever be moved from the first scene of the crime because the second scene will always be worse. If someone is kidnapping you, have the showdown as soon as possible.

Imagine the hostage-taking gunman to be your own sin… Treat it like the enemy it is.”

Don’t Wait

Sin is not something to monitor. It’s something to immediately kill—because the longer you wait, the bigger it grows and the more difficult it is to kill.

“Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means!”
— Romans 6:1–2

If you feel a nudge in your spirit to make a change, you must act immediately. Don’t wait until bitterness becomes rage. Or until loneliness turns into hours of mindless scrolling and secret resentment toward your family. Don’t wait until apathy becomes a cold, cynical heart.

Rachel Jankovic says:

“…if you are daydreaming in a way that does not become a follower of Christ, you are cultivating a garden of death in your heart.”

Practical Steps I Take:

• I began asking myself, “Where is the obedience in this situation?” Because obedience always produces fruit, even if it feels nearly impossible at first.
• I have to get honest about what’s triggering my sin—is it certain conversations, people, being on my phone? Then I create boundaries around those stumbling blocks.
• I start proactively retraining my brain so it naturally sees things how the Lord sees them.

Point 3: How to Live Fully as a Christian Woman

You can uproot sin and realign your thoughts… but how do you move forward as a woman who is no longer lukewarm but fully devoted to Christ?

There is a difference between doing Christian things and being a Christian woman transformed by Christ.

I used to believe that if I got my routines right—meal prepped, had quiet time, kept the house clean—then I was doing well spiritually.

But Jesus didn’t die to make me tidy. He died to make me new.

It Starts With Truth

“If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
— John 8:31–32

When you believe the truth of God’s Word, it transforms everything—your habits, your priorities, your tone, your motherhood, your marriage. Everything.

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
— Romans 12:2

What a Transformed Woman Looks Like

Let’s look at the marks of a true Christian in Romans 12:9–21. These verses show us what the Spirit of God produces in a woman who is fully alive in Christ:

• She lets love be genuine (v9)
• She hates evil and clings to what is good (v9)
• She honors others above herself (v10)
• She isn’t slothful, but fervent in spirit, serving the Lord (v11)
• She rejoices in hope, is patient in affliction, and constant in prayer (v12)
• She contributes to the needs of others and practices hospitality (v13)
• She blesses those who hurt her (v14)
• She enters into the joys and sorrows of others (v15)
• She lives in harmony and walks in humility (v16)
• She doesn’t seek revenge but entrusts justice to God (v17–19)
• She meets the needs of even her enemies (v20)
• She overcomes evil with good (v21)

These are not personality traits. They are evidence of a heart that has been made alive.

A Gentle Reminder: You’re Not Too Far Gone

If this stirred something in your spirit, it’s because the Spirit of God is still pursuing you and wanting you to draw nearer to Him.

You don’t have to stay lukewarm. You don’t have to stay in a fog of depression. You can become fully devoted to the Lord and give your mind to God, tackle sin immediately, and walk forward as a woman transformed by truth.

Don’t forget to sign up for the free workshop. It’s packed with truth, tools, and encouragement for Christian homemakers who are tired of just surviving and want to start thriving in their homemaking starting this week.