Your Motherhood Glow-Up Starts With a Calm Nervous System
Stop looking for the next trick, hack, or product that will fix your motherhood or give you the glow up you think you need. What you need to do first is focus on the unseen work happening inside your brain that will ultimately calm your nervous system.
If you’re a struggling mother, you’ve likely been training your brain to stay on high alert and think it’s in danger all the time, which will lead to a stressed-out nervous system—making you feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and exhausted before your day even begins. Your patience is thin, your joy is fleeting, and you’re left wondering if you’ll ever feel like yourself again.
Well, the truth is, you can.
Your motherhood glow-up doesn’t start with a new routine, a Pinterest-perfect home, or even more self-discipline—it starts with a calm nervous system. And today, that’s exactly what I want to show you.
Why Your Brain Keeps You on High Alert
You need to teach your brain that you can be in complex emotional situations and still be safe.
I had to completely rework the way I thought. I had to stop reacting automatically, stop letting stress dictate my responses, and intentionally guide my brain to a path that would allow my nervous system to relax. And this is something you can do too, starting today.
And the best part of how the Lord designed our brains is that you can start seeing results in yourself and your home without any of your circumstances changing.
The Power of Your Words
But you have to understand one thing first… you’re probably underestimating the power you hand over when you verbalize negativity. Every complaint, sigh, or eye roll trains your nervous system to brace for war—even in the safety of your own home.
Think of it like walking a path through tall grass. The first time, it’s hard work—pushing stalks aside, clearing space with each step. But if you walk that same path day after day, the grass lays flat, the soil packs down, and before long, it becomes the obvious way forward.
That’s exactly what’s happening in your brain. Every time you speak words of fear, frustration, or complaint, you’re beating down a path of defense and survival. And every time you speak words of peace, truth, and safety, you’re repaving a new path—one that leads your mind and body toward calm.
Every negative thought or word reinforces neural pathways that keep your nervous system on high alert, while every positive, truth-filled thought builds new pathways that allow your brain to signal safety and calm to your nervous system.
Your brain isn’t deciding what’s true or false, safe or unsafe—it simply follows the path you’ve walked the most, and your nervous system responds accordingly, relaxing when the brain has created new pathways of calm and safety.
From Survival Mode to Peace-Filled Homemaking
This is exactly what I teach in my free workshop. Most mothers don’t need more information. They need a reset. They’re stuck in cycles of stress, overstimulation, and overwhelm.
And if that sounds like you, you’re not a lost cause, but you do need a better system.
That’s why I created a free workshop called From Survival Mode to Peace-Filled Homemaking in 7 Days. It’s designed to help you get out of fight or flight, reset your nervous system, biblically renew your mind, and step back into the role of the peaceful, joyful homemaker God designed you to be.
Inside, I walk you through the exact biblical brain-rewiring system I used to stop living in survival mode and finally create a calm, joy-filled home.
Along with the workshop, you’ll also get a printable workbook—so you can follow along, take notes, and start putting these strategies into practice right away. These are the exact tools that helped me reclaim peace in my home as a burnt-out mother.
This is about learning how to finally build a home life that actually feels life-giving—how to embrace the qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman. So, if you’re done feeling stuck in survival mode, then join me.
And once you understand how your brain is guiding your nervous system, the next step becomes simple—and it’s something most moms completely overlook.
Training Your Brain Toward Calm
The first thing you need to do is to train your brain to notice when it’s on high alert and intentionally choose words, thoughts, and small actions that reassure it—so that the brain rewires itself and the nervous system follows into calm.
And before long, as you grow faithful in this, the unseen iceberg begins to shift beneath the surface—slowly, silently, yet with the force to redirect the entire ocean—proving that even the heaviest, most frozen parts of you are not beyond transformation.
Those parts of you that you thought were beyond repair, or make you think you’re a lost cause, or those parts of you that you’ve tried time and time again to “fix” or heal … there is a way out.
How to Start Retraining Your Brain Today
One of the simplest ways is by creating short reminder phrases to redirect your thoughts. Think of them as spiritual post-it notes for your brain—phrases like “I am safe in His hands,” or “Peace begins here,” repeated often enough to rewire your brain toward calm.
Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” These short phrases guard your mind and heart, allowing the nervous system to follow into peace, even in the chaos of motherhood.
I often feed you these in my videos, and one mother once shared a phrase she uses:
“This is the sentence I have been looking for, Thank you. It brings truth to the crazy in my mind, and brings me back to reality. I have a sentence for when I feel hurt by my husband (‘He wills me no ill.’) to help me stop the sinful thought cycle that is brought on by emotions, but I hadn’t come up with one for what sometimes is the chaotic life with children!”
This is exactly what I mean when I talk about retraining your nervous system—finding small, practical truths you can anchor to, even in the chaos. So figure out the moments when your mind starts to spiral, then come up with a couple of phrases that will help you rewire your brain on the topic.
Renewing Your Mind in Every Season
Look, I get questions all the time with all kinds of things that make you think this work isn’t for you because your situation is different or harder than somebody else’s. But let me tell you—renewing your mind is for everyone, regardless of your circumstances.
We were never promised a life of ease. In fact, Scripture reminds us in John 16:33, “In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” And in James 1:2-4, we are told to “count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness…”
Your life may feel messy, overwhelming, or impossible—but God has given you the ability to train your mind and cultivate peace within the chaos. This work is not about escaping difficulty; it’s about learning to walk through it with a rewired mind and a calm nervous system.
Finding Peace in Hormonal Highs and Lows
I get lots of questions about PMS and how to maintain peace during the hormonal highs and lows that feel completely out of your control, especially after months of practicing nervous system and brain retraining.
Someone once said:
“I always feel like a monster takes over me during the last few days before my period. It feels like I’m watching myself react in anger and yell and I can’t do anything to control it. Do you do anything differently the week before your period to offset any PMS or just after months and months of resetting your nervous system is that not really a struggle?”
Here’s the truth: highly stressful seasons, like hormonal overload, do amplify reactions. But the same brain-rewiring practices I teach give you resiliency. Practicing these steps consistently before they’re needed makes these seasons much more manageable.
Your brain begins to send signals of calm to your nervous system, allowing you to notice the surge, pause, and respond with grace rather than react automatically. Over time, even these intense days feel more manageable, and your home environment stays calmer.
Detach and Submit This Season to the Lord
Detach and submit this season to the Lord, acknowledging that you cannot control the surge of emotions or circumstances, but you can control where you place your focus.
By surrendering the outcome to Him, you give your brain permission to pause, your nervous system space to calm, and your heart room to respond with wisdom and grace.
This doesn’t mean ignoring your feelings or pretending everything is fine; it means intentionally shifting your mind from fear, frustration, or self-condemnation to trust in God’s sovereignty, which then allows your nervous system to follow into peace.
Over time, this practice transforms the way you experience even the most hormonally or emotionally intense days.
The Path to Peace-Filled Homemaking
In my free workshop, I have very practical ways for doing this—step-by-step exercises, simple daily practices, and short, powerful habits that train your brain to choose calm, which in turn allows your nervous system to settle.
These aren’t theoretical ideas; they are actionable tools you can start using today to experience more peace, patience, and joy in your home—even in the midst of chaos.
Remember, your motherhood glow-up starts inside your brain. Every time you choose a thought of peace over fear, every time you speak a word of truth instead of complaint, you are literally paving new pathways toward calm.
Even in moments that feel impossible—chaotic mornings, toddler tantrums, or seasons of high stress and hormonal overload—you can pause, anchor to truth, and slowly transform your reactions.
You are not a lost cause. The parts of you that feel frozen or out of control are not beyond repair. Every small, intentional step builds momentum, and your nervous system follows the lead of your rewired brain.
You can create a home where patience, joy, and peace are the default.
This is the exact process I still use to create a peaceful, joyful home—even in the chaos of raising little ones. So if you feel like you’re stuck in survival mode, it’s not too late. You can feel calm, present, and in control again.
